reviewing your past

You’re in your living room, stretched out on your couch, trying to remember who you were at eighteen, twenty-five, thirty-six, and wondering why you’re so different today. What happened to all your dreams, your plans for the future? How did life slip away without you even realizing it?

When we try to relive those years, are our memories of the events accurate? Do we see them as they were or as we would have liked them to be? Do we make excuses for our decisions, do we try to rationalize them, or do we live regretting what we left behind to get to where we are?

What would have happened if we had traveled the world for a few years before getting married or before embarking on a career? Would the earth have spun on its axis if we had put off those adult decisions until we had lived a little, learned more about life, learned more about ourselves?

Where are the friends we used to have, the ones we gave up on because we rationalized that we were moving on, growing up? Did we really know each other well enough to make the kinds of decisions that would affect our entire lives before we knew, with absolute certainty, the kind of life we ​​were signing up for?

Many people move through life on autopilot, unhappy with their lives but too lazy or too scared to make the necessary changes.

How did you get into this career? If it no longer suits you or you don’t feel like going to work every day, maybe it’s time to change the type of work you do. If you’re married and feeling stuck with kids and a huge mortgage, maybe it’s time to have that conversation with your spouse and see if he or she feels as stuck as you do.

It’s never too late to change your career or make different financial and living arrangements with your spouse. If you have the money, it’s never too late to take the trips you envisioned taking when you were eighteen, twenty-five, or thirty-six.

But, above all, it is knowing yourself as you are now. Are your dreams still dormant in your heart and mind or have you changed your dreams?

There’s no great shame in changing your dreams as long as you don’t kid yourself or make excuses for not following your original dreams, all of which makes me wonder why you let your life slip away, why you never realized it before. , and what you are going to do to recover the life you lost.