Why do good relationships fail? And how to maintain / achieve their amazing relationship!
Most think there are no easy answers as to why relationships fail. Before we begin to reveal the simple but rarely known reason why a relationship fails, let’s first define the word relationship in this article. Relationship is defined as: the way two people behave (mainly think) towards each other.
We both know that relationships generally begin with a person’s best step forward; which means that they are thinking the best of the other person. Then after a while (after the honeymoon period, which I personally think should never end), the couple turns to their previous exposure or training, so to speak; which means they start to show off their relationship tapes (the beliefs they learned from their parents). This extremely common occurrence is usually strong enough to end 60% of marriages. And of the marriages that exceed 10 years, a large percentage of these spouses stay “together” in the relationship because it is convenient. Consequently, only a very small percentage of married couples are truly in love and therefore enjoy this easily achievable eternal honeymoon stage of marriage.
Why only a handful of people have good relationships? The answer: They understand that their thinking and imagination have a profound effect on what happens in their relationships. In addition, they have found a common ground of continuous growth and mutual curiosity and admiration. However, in order to do this, they must first be totally in love with themselves. If you think about it, how can you love another if you are not in love with yourself? It is impossible to love another without loving yourself first. I know I have tried. Also, doesn’t it make sense? Think about this. Would you ever go to a dentist who has lifted your teeth and makes them work for you? I hope not!
Consequently, we can deduce quite easily that relationships that have failed are due to this simple fact; people in the relationship looked to each other for love and satisfaction. I think you are getting the point. What can we do about it? Whether you are in a relationship in the present or not, you can begin now to develop your self-esteem and self-esteem by imagining a feeling of happiness that produces images and scenes with your partner or future partner. And then watch what the Universe will bring to you and your life. It is an endless journey that you will not want to get off of.
In other words, doing this simple exercise with your mind will eventually bring much more satisfaction in your present or future relationship. How does this work so well? It works because no one has ever told you that your thoughts hit your target instantly. For example, if you are thinking that your husband is bad. What is the probability that your husband will be angry when he comes home from work? I have placed many studies in my book that prove that this reality of life actually occurs with every thought you think, with everything in life!
In any case, as you begin to love yourself more and more unconditionally, you can’t help but begin to notice the positive attributes of your partner as well; like you did when you met your partner. This daily personal growth cannot help but be a powerful catalyst to bring more and more happiness and fulfillment to your daily life and relationships, especially your relationship with yourself and your power. Obviously, there is something that pops up to let you know if you are on the right track or not to make your current or future relationship manifest and turn into an amazing one. Do you know what that is? They are your good feelings!
Let’s explore this a bit more so that we can all understand the deeper meaning of loving yourself. What percentage of the time does a person notice, on average, what they are thinking and feeling? The sad but true answer is: it is almost zero! This is crazy, but most people live like this! Not realizing that they are keeping their dreams away from themselves with their infinitely powerful thoughts producing feelings. I don’t have the space here to share the facts and science about your thoughts and feelings; however, I share these facts in my book that I mention below. In any case, when you notice that your negative thinking produces thoughts, do you realize that you are actually causing stress damage to your bodies? And take away the possibility of good future experiences? No, not them!
Most people never think for a second what their thinking does to their lives, their bodies, and their relationships. For example, when you focus (think in a way that produces negative feelings) on something or someone that makes you feel bad; this is an extremely common example of stress. What does stress do to your body and brain? Does stress (negative emotions) put you in a good frame of mind to make good decisions? Or does he have a tendency to make you say and do things that you will regret later? The answer is obvious. YES! In any case, I think you are getting the idea (the truth) or at least hearing it for the first time. That is something good!
But there is something even more important here. There is an eternal part of you (some say God, also known as Source, also known as The Infinite, Higher Self, etc.) that does not respond to your actions for saying it, but to your thoughts, ideas and personal judgments, in other words , your current beliefs. Albert Einstein, a brilliant scientist, shared this timeless message when he was physically alive: “Imagination is more important than knowledge.” He also said: “Imagination is everything, it is the foretaste of the life of the next attractions.” What did you mean by these profound statements? I meant that everything that worries you or makes you happy about yourself comes closer and closer to you to eventually experience it.
And here’s the catch, your emotions (positive feelings and negative feelings, also known as stress) let you know instantly whether or not you will like the experience when you finally find yourself right in the middle of it. Nothing happens by chance. No luck saying it. You have invited and will always invite all your experiences into your life and body. Consequently, when you routinely feel grateful, appreciative, and loving with yourself and with others, you will always be guided by inspired thoughts and actions toward increasingly wonderful experiences in your life. This is a beautiful thing that we all have internally.
And at the same time, if you habitually fight or argue or blame or complain or fear or worry or judge yourself and others negatively, you will always be led (guided) to more and more unwanted experiences. Remember, you will always have your free will; which means that your thoughts (beliefs) are what have created your situations and circumstances, not your actions or spoken words. All the negative experiences you live through are created and triggered by you so that you wake up and eventually learn who you really are. Whether you currently believe this or not, you have put every obstacle and every good experience in your life, no one else has done this for you.
Start now to imagine wonderful experiences with your partner or future partner! You’ll be glad you did!