If I use reverse psychology with my boyfriend, will he want to marry me?

Sometimes I hear from people who have tried the “traditional way” of making a man want to commit. They try to make you feel guilty. They tell you how important marriage is to them. They give you ultimatums. Most of us know that these tactics just don’t work. And yet we feel compelled to try them anyway. When our suspicions are confirmed and we risk making things worse, it occurs to us that it might make sense to go against the grain so that he is not waiting for the next tactic.

A good example of this is trying to use reverse psychology. The idea is to make him think that you do not want or are not thinking about the commitment so that he can deliver it to you more easily.

Someone might say, “I really believe that I am destined to marry the man I am currently dating. I firmly believe that we are destined to have a close family and grow old together. The problem is that he just doesn’t see This yet. He feels like there’s no rush. His parents dated for over a decade and they’re pretty honest about the fact that they’re only married for the kids. The guy I’m dating actually broke up with his last girlfriend because she pressured him to get married. He just got tired of it. So I know I can’t use this tactic. But I’m thinking I could use reverse psychology. Effectively? “

In terms of getting the compromise you want, reverse psychology is attempted in two different ways. The first example is that you practically allow it to chase you. The idea is that you act like he loves you more than you want him. At the end of the process, the hope is that he is almost desperate for you to show him some kind of committed affection because you have been distant. I find this only works if a guy is crazy about you, and even then it will only work for a short time. Most people get tired of feeling rejected and of playing these games. Also, it seems like in this scenario, it’s too late for that anyway. This couple had already been dating for a while and this man probably already knew that she was at least a little engaged.

The second way that people will try to use reverse psychology to get a commitment is to pretend that a commitment is not really important to them. They will act like they just want to go on a casual date or like it’s the relationship that matters and not what that relationship ultimately becomes. These are the women who will often tell a man that she just wants to be with him and have fun and not worry about the form the relationship takes.

Sometimes this works to get a man into a relationship that he may not have wanted to get into before. But, you can only take this so far. Because once you start this, you have to continue to act as if the commitment is not that important to you, even if this is the furthest thing from the truth. What if you are perfectly happy to continue in this casual way for a very long period of time?

The hope is always that, after a while, he will come to want the commitment on his own, without the need to push him. It is always better to let a man want to commit without pressure. But not all men will do this. Some are perfectly happy to continue their “no obligation” relationship. That’s the risk of reverse psychology.

There is nothing wrong with trying. But you should know that there is a possibility that he does not change his mind and wants to continue with a more casual relationship. At that point, you will either have to continue in this way or you will have to admit that you have changed your mind and admit that a commitment has become important to you.