Holding your first love in marriage
Sustaining the first love in marriage is a great task that married couples must face for the success and happiness of their marriage. Easily abandoned as a result of other marital pressures or challenges. The first love in marriage, if it is sustained, is like the oil that makes the marriage run smoothly. The relationship will be fresh every day. Couples will always enjoy their company when they keep their first love for each other.
Many people wonder why marriages fail after the outpouring of adoration, affection, devotion, and passion during courtship and honeymoon. The simple reason is that those fantasies that brought them together and kept them together didn’t stick or stick. It takes sheer determination to maintain them, determination that overrides all contending factors that will want to pierce those fantasies. I call them fantasies because love, which embodies adoration, affection, devotion, and passion, is nothing more than impression. Yes, impression in the mind that something suits you and you want it, and sometimes you get it.
The impression is sustained by memories. Therefore, the first love in marriage must be sustained by the pleasant memories of the days of courtship and honeymoon. Your marriage should be stronger by growing in love instead of falling apart. After all, old wine tastes better, they say. The more they stay together, the more they will understand themselves. And you are expected to use understanding to build a stronger and more loving relationship.
Here are some tips to help you win back and sustain your first love in marriage.
* Remember what you used to call your partner during courtship or honeymoon. That endearing name, come back to him. Some give up the affectionate nickname of their spouses immediately after having their first baby or as they grow older in the marriage. They allow your baby’s name or your spouse’s name to substitute for the pet’s name.
* Also remember the passion that led to the adoption of the pet name in the first instance. Never allow monotony to creep into your marriage. Relive that passion every day and your marriage will be fresh every day.
* Stay as close as you used to be in the beginning. Desiring the presence of the other all the time. Employment or any other activity should not separate you.
* Make the exchange of gifts a regular feature of your marriage. Keep journals of important dates in your lives. Dates like birthdays, wedding anniversaries, graduations, your first meeting, etc. must be held annually.
* Remember from time to time your first meeting and tell your partner how a blessing his entry into your life has been.
* Learn to snuggle regularly.
* Make time for vacations and sightseeing together.
* Relive your honeymoon by spending a vacation alone without the children.